Gay Kuching: local gay boy Ronnie tells us the gay life in Malaysia

Stefan Arestis

“It’s just more relaxed here compared to mainland Malaysia”

Here is Sarawak, Malaysia on Borneo island, where we stayed for a month after travelling in Peninsular Malaysia. We based ourselves in the main city of Kuching, a very cool city, relaxed and smiles aplenty from everyone.

We made a lot of friends here, both straight, gay, Muslim, Chinese origin – all very accepting and welcoming. One particular friend was local metrosexual journalist, Ronnie, who guided us through the ins and outs of this part of Borneo island in our guide to gay Kuching.

#1 Hey Ronnie, introduce yourself:

Selamat detang to Kuching my Nomadic Baes! I am Ronnie, journalist and fellow blogger of Man in the Face Mask.

Robbie, Stefan and Sebastien in Kuching, Sarawak
Ronnie, Stefan and Sebastien discussing Malaysian food and other subjects in Kuching

#2 What’s the perception of the LGBTQ community in Malaysia and Kuching?

Malaysia is a very conservative society, but we have a large gay community in the big cities, especially Kuala Lumpur. It's not as active as Thailand, but at least there are places you can go.

Malaysia is such a hodgepodge of races and religions and that's exacerbated here in Sarawak with indigenous races like the Dayak, which can further be broken down to more than 200 ethnic subgroups!

So, there are many criteria that differentiates all of us anyway. Somewhere along the way, sexual orientation becomes one of those “check-boxes”. People around here have gotten to know about gays and lesbians, but that does not necessarily translate into acceptance.

Nevertheless, people rarely resort to hatred or violence on the topic. I guess it comes as no surprise why Kuching was pegged as the City of Unity a couple of months ago. And I think tourists who come here feel it too. Smiles and greetings of welcome come easily from us.

Stef and Seb with our friends in Kuching
Feeling welcomed by these very friendly Kuching locals

#3 Do you have any gay friends who’ve experienced any open homophobia by their friends, family or in the workplace?

Luckily boys I don't. Many people here practice the ideology of an “open secret”: it’s not really talked about in public discussions. Along this line, not many are really open about their sexuality.

Nevertheless, sexuality isn't the only factor that makes up a person, and that's why homophobia is not prevalent here. We're so much more than just a straight/gay/bi label.

Sarawakians are people with plenty of talent, like Ms Pandalela Rinong, 22, becoming the first female Malaysian athlete to win a medal at the Olympics, or fellow Sarawakian Miss Malaysia World 2014, Dewi Liana Seriestha, being crowned Miss World Talent last year.

So now, we're just about ready to take over the world 🙂

Our Sarwakian RWMF group selfie in Sarawak Malaysia
Our Sarawakian group selfie getting ready to take over the world starting with the Rainforest World Music Festival in Kuching

#4 Are there any gay bars in Kuching?

Generally pubs and bars welcome anyone, as long as you don't cause them any trouble. These are some popular hangouts, which aren't officially gay but attract a gay/mixed crowd:

  • Zinc Bar at 38 Tabuan Road is a popular high end French / Malay fusion hang out.

For a larger party gay scene, we head to Bangkok, Singapore and even Australia.

Night out at Zinc gay friendly bar in Kuching
Night out with our Kuching friends at gay friendly Zinc Bar in Kuching

#5 Are there any gay friendly hotels in Kuching?

There are several for all budgets, which wouldn’t bat an eyelid if you boys ordered a double bed. Some favourites recommended by gay friends include:

BATIK BOUTIQUE HOTEL   Check prices now

  • Cute little boutique hotel with clean and comfortable rooms.
  • Very friendly staff and excellent breakfast. 
  • Rooms start from 300 Ringgits (£46/$70) a night.

HILTON HOTEL   Check prices now 

  • Located on the river, perfect for walks and evening market.
  • Excellent breakfast (you must try their Laksa Sarawak).
  • Rooms from 230 Ringgits (£36/$54) a night.

MARCO POLO GUESTHOUSE   Check prices now

  • Good budget option with extremely friendly owners devoted to their guests.
  • 60 Ringgits (£10/$14) a night includes a basic breakfast.
Stef and Seb with Mee Kolok in Kuching, Sarawak Malaysia
Stef and Seb about to go face down in a plate of Mee Kolok on the streets of Kuching near Padungan Hotel

#6 What fun activities do you recommend to LGBT tourists in Kuching?

Great question boys. Kuching has a lot to offer and keep you busy both in the city and around. Here's a summary of my favourites:

  • Cats: we have a thing with cats and the name Kuching even means “cats” in Malay. We have a cat statue which welcomes you into the city and also a museum just about cats!
  • Orchid garden: I love the relaxing serene atmosphere here. It's located near the Cat Museum, so the two tie in nicely for a day trip.
  • Food: if you love your food, then you will do very well in Kuching. Everyone here is excited to show off our local specialties and every August we have the Kuching Food Festival for the entire month.


Seb and Ronnie with Sarawak Laksa in Kuching
Ronnie trying to save his Sarawak Laksa from greedy boy Sebastien in Kuching

#7 Any gyms you recommend to LGBT travellers?

A good gym I recommend for fitness bunnies is Level Up Fitness located at Wisma Everrise (behind HSBC). As well as an excellent gym with brand new equipment, they have a variety of classes like body pump, yoga, core and spinning:

Spin class at Level Up Fitness gym in Kuching, Sarawak
Spin class with Mary at the Level Up Fitness gym in Kuching

#8 Any tips for getting up close to the proboscis monkeys and orang-utans?

There’s several National Parks near Kuching, each makes for an excellent day trip:

  • Bako National Park: the place to come to see proboscis monkeys. It is located on an island, which you reach via a car ride and boat transfer. I recommend using a well reputed and gay friendly tour company like Borneo Adventures.
  • Semenggoh Wildlife Centre: the place to see orang utans close up. This is the largest orang-utan rehabilitation centre. It was established in 1975 as a sanctuary for injured and orphaned orang-utans. You can visit as a day trip by yourself or arrange a tour with a company like Rainforest Kayaking, which will also include some awesome kayaking in the Borneo jungle.
Orang-utans at Semenggoh, Sarawak Malaysia
Sakara the 44 years old orang-utan with her little boy at the Semenggoh Wildlife Centre in Sarawak, Malaysia

#9 Where's the best place to experience the rainforest near Kuching?

Mulu National Park is the place to go to experience the Borneo rainforest. It's a short flight away from Kuching.

Sebastien at the Mulu National Park
Sebastien in the heart of the rainforest at Mulu National Park

#10 Finally, Sebastien would like to invest in a new outfit for next year's Rainforest World Music Festival, any suggestions?

Oh Sebastien would look just awesome in one of our batik outfits: colourful and a great way to bring out his very dramatic French personality:

Sebastien with batik outfit
Sebastien's batik outfit: his latest fresh from Kuching

To find out more about Ronnie, read his very touching coming out story, and watch our adventures through Malaysia in our travel video:


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Stefan Arestis

Stefan is the co-founder, editor and author of the gay travel blog As a travel nerd, he has explored more than 80 countries across 5 continents. What he loves the most about travelling is discovering the local gay scene, making new friends and learning new cultures. His advice about LGBTQ travel has been featured in Gay Times, Gaycities, Pink News, Gay Star News, Attitude and Towleroad. He has also written about gay travel for other non-gay specific publications including Lonely Planet, The New York Times, The Guardian and The Huffington Post. Stefan is also a qualified lawyer, having practised as a commercial property litigator in London for over 10 years. He left his lawyer days behind to work full time on Nomadic Boys with his husband Sebastien. Find out more about Nomadic Boys.

34 thoughts on “Gay Kuching: local gay boy Ronnie tells us the gay life in Malaysia”

  1. I am local gxy from Kuching. Thank for your review of my hometown. Your content is so informative and interesting. I put as bookmarks ,hope it we’ll help me during planning for vacation. Can’t wait for your return in Sarawak especially cetern region that you not yet visit. since Sarawak is slightly big compare main island of Malaysia. Keep it up and good luck guys =)

  2. Hey boys, next time you are in Kuching, do visit my NGO. We are an HIV/AIDS NGO and deal with PLHIV. But we are also dealing directly with LGBTQ community here in Kuching.

  3. The outdoor adventures look amazing, and so does the food! It looks like you had a fantastic time in Kuching, and that you were able to meet a lot of friendly and open people. I’m happy for you!

  4. Looks like you guys had a blast in Kuching – and glad to hear you found some cool people to hang out with. I’m just over the causeway in Sing, but I still haven’t made it over there. Soon! PS – the food looks delicious!


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