Gay life in Ecuador: Interview with Mario, gay local boy from Quito

Stefan Arestis

The gay scene in Quito is a lot of fun with a handful of gay bars and discos. But compared to other cities across Latin America like Buenos Aires and Montevideo, we noticed the crowd was largely quite young in comparison. No bear culture here for example…where do all the over 40s hang out?

Ecuador has this weird extreme mix of the very conservative older generation versus the more forward thinking, confident and liberal minded millennials.

It makes sense when you look at the dramatic change in LGBT legislation over the last 20 years. Until 1997, gay life in Ecuador was tough: it was an extremely conservative country, on par with places like Sri Lanka, India or Indonesia where just being caught in a gay bar could get you in trouble with the police.

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You wouldn't be doing this open in public in pre-1997 Ecuador!

In 1997, the constitution was changed introducing some of the most progressive gay friendly legislation in the world. For example, full anti-discrimination laws on grounds of sexual orientation were introduced. In the UK, we had to wait until 2003 when the equivalent law was passed and in the USA, there is still no federal law outlawing discrimination nationwide.

It didn't stop there, the age of consent for both straight and LGBT was equalised (to 14 years old), long before most other countries in the world did the same. In the UK, for example, it wasn't equalised until 2003. Then in June 2019, Ecuador's highest court made an epic ruling requiring the government to recognise same-sex marriages.

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As a result, the older generation remains largely conservative, frowning on homosexuality; this was, after all, what they knew growing up. In stark contrast, the post-1997 millennial generation sees things from a completely different perspective following the extreme changes in laws that took place that year.

We met one very sweet millennial in Quito called Mario, who told us about his gay life in Ecuador and more about the gay scene of Quito.

1. Hola Mario, introduce yourself:

Hi boys, my name is Mario Mendieta, I'm a 23 years old law student, born, raised in Quito.

My family is from the city of Loja in South Ecuador, famous for its coffee. I also LOVE music, especially Ariana Grande.

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Meet: Mario from Quito, law student and Ariana Grande fan

2. Are you openly gay?

Yes I am. I've always known I was gay and came out to my family and friends when I was 20 years old. My family was a bit shocked at first and my sister even fainted – we Ecuadorians are known to be quite dramatic at times! My mother started to cry because she was worried I would get AIDS, do drugs and dress up in women's clothes. I assured her that me being gay only meant I love being with another man, nothing else, which helped her realise there's no problem.

After the initial shock, everyone in my family was ok with it and admitted they'd always known. It definitely strengthened our relationship.

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A confident Mario standing proud with Quito on display behind him

3. How is it to be gay in Ecuador?

At first, it was hard for me because I had to be careful not to be too out there, especially around the older generations. For example, my father asked me not to tell his co-workers. This prevailing attitude made it hard to be openly gay so I had very few gay friends growing up and was always closer with girls.

You do see a slight generational gap in the gay scene across Ecuador. There are generally more younger people in the gay bars and discos in Quito, with more of the older generation preferring to go to more discrete places like gay saunas.

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Mario giving us the lowdown on where people our age are likely to hang out

4. Have you ever experienced any homophobia?

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I was bullied at school because I was always the shy guy who only used to hang around with girls, never played sports and always did music and theatre. As a result, I suffered from anorexia and bulimia in my teenage years, which really dampened my confidence.

I eventually picked myself up, accepted who I was and even signed up to a modelling company before starting my law studies. This really boosted my confidence and I got to work with Addidas, Totto and also appeared on the Oie Teleamazonas children's TV show.

5. Which are your favourite gay bars and clubs in Quito?

Bars and clubs in Quito change a lot all the time, but at the moment Kika is my favourite discoteca because it plays really cool music and always attracts the best crowd. Our largest gay club in Quito is “El Hueco”, which has been around the longest.

Another popular gay club in Quito on Friday evenings is called Disco Bitch, where all the teenagers and twentysomethings go.

I obviously recommend this (ahem!) excellent gay guide to Quito.

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Hanging out with the cute twinks at Quito's Disco Bitch

6. What's the best way for gay travellers to meet locals like you?

Mobile apps like Grindr and Manhunt are a good starting point.

I also recommend heading to gay bars like Kika and El Hueco. We absolutely love foreigners in Ecuador so you will definitely feel welcomed.

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Mario on Grindr ready to connect with you!

7. Are there any big gay events or parties in Ecuador?

The biggest gay party in Ecuador is the annual Kika white party, which takes place on the beach near the coastal town of Salinas (around 1-hour flight from Quito). 

We have a gay pride in Quito every June, which is also followed by a massive party at Kika. The Quito Pride has taken place every year without fail since 1998, when the law was changed to make homosexuality legal in Ecuador.

Over the last decade, we've seen more and more gay prides also taking place in the other major cities across Ecuador, especially in Guayaquil

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Preparing our outfits for Quito gay pride. Sebastien looks particularly fetching in his

8. Which destination in Ecuador do you think is the most gay friendly?

Quito and Guayaquil are the two major cities in the country with the largest gay scenes. In terms of an overall gay friendly destination, I'd say Montañita. This is a village by the coast, popular with surfers, famous for its bohemian vibe and very liberal attitude. It's like our own Las Vegas: anything goes!

When I visited Montañita with my ex-boyfriend, we felt extremely comfortable walking down the streets holding hands and being docile with each other in public. It also has a lot of foreigners here, especially from Argentina, Chile, USA and Europe.

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Beach boys Stefan and Sebastien in Ecuador

9. Where would you go for a romantic date or weekend?

My favourite romantic weekend destination is the SachaJi Wellness Ecolodge Retreat near Ibarra. It has a beautiful setting, 3,000m (9,850 ft) in the mountains, overlooking 2 volcanoes: Imbabura and Cotacachi, as well Lago San Pablo, the largest lake in Ecuador. They have an in-house restaurant with everything made from their garden and every meal is delicious!

For a romantic date in Quito, I recommend visiting our famous 200 metres (656ft) “El Panecillo” Madonna Virgin statue. It's located 3,000 metres (9,850 ft) high in the Andes and proudly overlooks my city. Then I recommend heading to the equator line at Mitad del Mundo followed by a romantic meal at the nearby El Crater restaurant, famous for its view across the Pulalahua volcano crater.

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Taking Mario's advice we headed to El Panecillo to marvel at the view together

10. What’s your favourite Ecuadorian food?

I love fritadas. This is fried pork (chancho) with mote (corn), fried plantain (banana) and sliced avocados.

I also love chaulafán, which is the Ecuadorian version of Chinese fried rice. We have a large Chinese community living in here in Ecuador and “chifas” is the name of our Chinese restaurants where you can get some delicious chaulafáns.

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Freshly made fritada for dinner – Mario's favourite Ecuadorian dish

11. Any local gay slang LGBT travellers need to know?

There are a few words we use in our gay family here in Quito:

  • cachiloca: refers to a very masculine looking guy who is extremely feminine the moment he opens his mouth
  • hola ñaña: is like “hey gurrl” – “ñaña” is originally a Kichwa indigenous word meaning “sister”
  • que fuerte: literally meaning “how camp!”
  • gordito/gordita: an ironic affectionate word for a fatty
  • mojigatos: a hypocrite
  • querida: honey
  • oyefff: means “hey” – in Quito we add an elongated ffff sound to the end of words that end in a vowel. It’s such a defining characteristic of our Quiteño accent that others from around Ecuador jokingly refer to Quito as “Quitoffff”.
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Mario teaching Bluebie gay Ecuadorian slang words

12. Finally, we heard from various sources that Ecuadorian men are one of the most well-endowed in the world. What advice can you give gay travellers for coping with these 7 inch monsters?

Hahahahahaha…WELCOME TO ECUADOR BOYS!! That's all 🙂

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Ecuador: never to be underestimated – tiny country but labelled dark green(!)

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Stefan Arestis

Stefan is the co-founder, editor and author of the gay travel blog As a travel nerd, he has explored more than 80 countries across 5 continents. What he loves the most about travelling is discovering the local gay scene, making new friends and learning new cultures. His advice about LGBTQ travel has been featured in Gay Times, Gaycities, Pink News, Gay Star News, Attitude and Towleroad. He has also written about gay travel for other non-gay specific publications including Lonely Planet, The New York Times, The Guardian and The Huffington Post. Stefan is also a qualified lawyer, having practised as a commercial property litigator in London for over 10 years. He left his lawyer days behind to work full time on Nomadic Boys with his husband Sebastien. Find out more about Nomadic Boys.

18 thoughts on “Gay life in Ecuador: Interview with Mario, gay local boy from Quito”

  1. Great article guys! I’m
    From London and moving to Ecuador in August ✈️ to teach at an international school in Quito. Let me know if free to meet for a coffee 😊 Tim

  2. I was thinking about moving to Equador as I’m retired but now knowing about their attitude with the gay lifestyle and how hung their guys are,I’m even more intrigued. I got out of a bad marriage to a woman and find myself more attracted to men.So when this nonsense stops,would love to go on a vacation. I would love to be involved in an orgy,preferably ten hung guys.I’ve never had anal before,so looking for the perfect guy for my first time.

  3. Enjoyed the article and information. Thank you. We are considering a move and Ecuador is a possible retirement location. We have been reading a lot about the country and cost of living. Mostly curious about the safety of two married gay men in Ecuador. We like warm climates, are pretty private and looking for an optional retirement location outside the USA.

  4. Hi guys….great story and interview
    Working on plans for March 2019 travel to Ecuador…
    Suggest the best website for hay travel plans??

  5. Thanks for this interview and article, it was an interesting read, and you have made me want to go to Ecuador even more now!

    I just hope that I meet Mario too, he is soooo lovely! ¡Mucho guapo! 😍😛😍


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