Stefan Arestis | Aug 29, 2017 | 4
Gay Argentina: interview with gay local boy Juanjo from Buenos Aires
Argentina is one of the most gay friendly countries in the world.
It was the first country in Latin America to legalise gay marriage in July 2010, which also included full adoption rights. This made it the 2nd in the entire continent (after Canada) and 10th in the world. The right to change legal gender has been in place since 2012 and in the same year, legislation was introduced adding life imprisonment to hate crimes based on sexual orientation, gender identity or expression.
Buenos Aires in particular is home to a very active gay scene, particularly across Palermo, where we met local boy Juanjo, or Juan for short. Juan agreed to give us this interview to tell us about what it’s like growing up as gay man in Argentina.
#1 Buenos dias Juan! Introduce yourself:
Hola chicos, my name is Juan Morilla, but my friends call me John. I am a 20 years old drama student from Buenos Aires.
#2 Are you out to your friends and family?
Yes, my family and closest friends know I’m gay. I came out to them 2 months ago, but it was easy. My parents were very understanding, although it was harder for me to accept it at first because I felt I was a bad son.
#3 Why do you think Argentina and Buenos Aires is so gay friendly?
We had a very repressive dictatorship in 1976-1981. During this period, we faced a great deal of terror and brutality. After the military dictatorship fell in 1983, there was an explosion in the arts and a sexual revolution in all spheres. The first gay bar opened in 1983, LGBT rights movements were allowed to be established and in 1992, President Carlos Menem signed a decree promising equal protection to gays.
In addition, the government and our media has historically done a great deal to combat discrimination and given a voice to the gay community. For example, transsexual actress Florencia De La Vega played a transvestite in the 2004 soap opera Los Roldán and in 2005, the television dating show 12 Corazones-Especial became the first in the country to exclusively feature gay men who kissed on camera. It was uncensored!
Things like this helped show our society that homosexuality is not a perversion and in fact we are just the same as heterosexuals.
#4 What’s it like growing up as gay in Argentina?
I am fortunate because Buenos Aires is a very gay friendly city and I have never experienced any homophobia. It took me quite a while to accept being gay because I am an only child and my parents are a bit conservative.
Growing up, I didn’t want to be a minority in society and instead aspired to be what I thought was the stereotypical male with a car, sexy blond wife, 2 children, a nice house, a van and a golden retriever. My parents and friends around me are very accepting and I have never had to hide my sexuality to anyone.
#5 What are your favourite gay bars and clubs in Buenos Aires?
My favourite is Glam club in Recoleta and Peuteo gay bar in Palermo.
We also have monthly/fortnightly parties in Buenos Aires like Plop! It’s a lot of fun, plays the best music and attracts many sexy guys. For more information, I recommend this excellent gay guide to Buenos Aires by two cheeky friends of mine(!)
#6 What’s the best way for gay travellers to meet gay locals like you?
The best way is via apps like Manhunt, Grindr, Hornet, Happn and Tinder. Also, we Argentinians love our social media a lot, especially Instagram – get in touch with me on my Instagram profile.
#7 Where would you take a date for a romantic weekend?
For me I would visit an estancia in the countryside outside the city, like Puesto Viejo in Cañueles. This is a large polo club with a boutique hotel, outdoor infinity pool and really beautiful gardens. On a hot summer’s day in February/March, it’s nice to just come here to chill with your lover.
I also love spending a weekend at Puesto Viejo to play polo. They offer private classes here for all levels. It’s so much fun. You get to play after trying it out and if you’re into horse riding, you’ll love it.
When I first came here, I was quite apprehensive at first because I had never ridden a horse before. But by the end of the day I managed to score a few goals in the match we played.
This is definitely a fun and romantic way to enjoy a romantic break when based in Buenos Aires.
#8 Are there any gay events not to miss in Argentina?
There are a few that come to mind:
- Vandimia gay festival: in early March, there is the annual famous wine harvesting festival in Mendoza called Vandimia, which concludes with a large gay party.
- Asterisco LGBTIQ Film Festival: in July, we have our annual gay Film Festival, which is definitely worth checking out if you’re in the city.
- BADiversa: every August in Buenos Aires, we have a week dedicated to the LGBT community called BADiversa. It includes the Gnetwork360 gay travel Conference as well as many other events.
- Orgullo Buenos Aires: Orgullo is our annual gay pride, going strong since 1992. It takes place on the first Saturday of November and last year’s event attracted a massive crowd of more than 200,000 people!
#9 Are there any famous Argentinian gay icons?
My favourite gay icon is Evita, especially after the famous Madonna musical was made. Many Argentinian gay guys love her and visit her grave at the Recoleta Cemetery to pay their respects.
A more less known but extremely important gay icon for us is Carlos Jáuregui who died in 1996. He was an activist for gay rights during the 1980s and 1990s. He led the way for much of what we have achieved today. He is like our own Harvey Milk. I am so proud that my city will be celebrating him by naming a new subway station after him.
#10 And finally, are there any important gay slang words that LGBT travellers need to learn?
Ha ha ha, yes, of course! We have our own gay slang in Buenos Aires. For example a “tetera” is a cruising place and taxi boys are the name for escort boys.
Another popular one is “chongo” used to describe very macho acting guys and so we tease each other and feminise the word to call ourselves “chongas” or “chongitas”!
Read more about our travels in Argentina:
- check out our gay guides for Rosario and Córdoba
- read about our romantic road trip through Corrientes and Misiones
- learn more about our favourite Argentinian foods including our recipe for Argentinian steak
- laugh along with our 10 interesting facts about Argentina